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How to Get Over a Broken Heart – 5 Tips for Getting Over a Broken Heart

If you’re trying to figure out how to get over a broken heart then you’re probably going through a pretty awful time right now. Your relationship is over, you feel heartbroken and you want something to make the pain go away. I understand what you’re going through and I know just how bad it feels so I decided to write an article and record a video that share 5 key tips for healing a broken heart.


5 Tips for How to Get Over a Broken Heart


1) Remember that Healing a Broken Heart is a Process


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Getting over a break up is a painful process and getting angry, frustrated and confused is all part of that process. So is crying, feeling sad, and having trouble sleeping. You may even find yourself having dreams about your ex and losing interest in activities that would normally excite you.  If any of this has been happening to you, rest assured that everything is fine. In fact, all of these things are perfectly normal after a break up. Yes, even dreaming about your ex. This is simply your unconscious mind trying to process the loss and work through it on its own.

In fact, you can actually speed up the recovery process by allowing all of these feelings to come up and work through them as they do. I know it’s not very comfortable but acknowledging the pain you’re in and working through it is one of the most important steps in healing a broken heart. So give yourself some time to grieve the loss. It’s okay to feel down and not know how it will all work out. Give yourself the permission to not know for now and trust that these experiences will reveal their true value to you down the line. For now, just be where you are and be at peace with that.

2) Realize that Not All Relationships Are Meant to Last

Most relationships end and the majority of people who date are bound to break up.

I know that may sound like a very negative and cynical view of relationships but that’s just the reality of life. Just look around you, I surely don’t need to tell you how high the divorce rate is.

Now, I’m not trying to discourage you from being in a relationship or getting married; all I’m saying is that most people simply do not belong together and it’s only a matter of time before they realize it and break up. This is an inevitable part of the dating process and if you’re able to accept it as just a natural part of dating, you will have a much easier time getting over a break up.

Once you accept that throughout your life you’ll be in a few relationships that don’t work out, you can stop blaming yourself for what you might see as a “failure.” See, what we’re often so quick to write off as a “failed relationship” is actually a valuable life lesson if we stop to actually reflect on the relationship and learn from it.

3) Reflect on the Relationship and Learn from it

As we date around, we learn more about ourselves and how we interact with others. But even more importantly, we get a better sense of what we really want in a relationship and what we’re absolutely not willing to tolerate.

So rather than writing this off as just another failed relationship, reflect on what happened and learn from it. If you’re able to gain a greater sense of self-awareness from this relationship and move on with your life with a much better idea of what you really want, then this relationship was a success in its own right. Sure, it may not be a success in the traditional sense – a marriage in which two people went on to live happily ever after – but it’s still a success because it taught you some very important lessons about yourself, relationships, and life in general. Once you’re able to see these things, you can be grateful for what you learned rather than feeling bad about went wrong.

“Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be.” ~ Charles Jones

So use this is an opportunity to become the person you deserve to be. Chances are you were tolerating things that you shouldn’t have been tolerating in your relationship. Well, now you don’t have to tolerate it anymore. You’re free. All the stress and drama that your relationship was causing you has been lifted. You now have a fresh bundle of clay and you’re free to mold it any way you want.

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4. Rediscover who you are without this relationship

Relationships have a way of affecting us on a very deep level, especially when we really love someone. In fact, sometimes they can even make us lose a part of ourselves. Well now’s the time to remember who you are again.

Start by making a list of the things you want to accomplish in life to remind yourself of where you want to go. What interests do you have that you have ignored for a long time? What things have you not done for yourself that you would like to do again? Getting to know you and what you want for your future is crucial to getting over a breakup or divorce.

5. Use this time to create the life of your dreams

Once you start working towards your dreams again, you may realize how much you’ve lost by being in a codependent relationship. You’ve probably forgotten how much you like making music, playing sports, or working out. If you’ve lost your job because of your relationship or your hours have gotten cut back, consider starting fresh and finding a career that truly inspires and fulfills you.

Find what truly makes you happy and do what you love. That way, you can still be happy with yourself even if one particular relationship doesn’t work out. Remember that nothing should have the power to take over your life and affect you like this. Rediscover your inner strength and build yourself back up stronger than ever so that you never find yourself feeling so weak and helpless ever again.

Even though everyone’s journey of getting over a break up is different, these 5 steps should be at the cornerstone of every break up recovery plan.

If you’re feeling confused or frustrated about something that happened between you and your ex, click below to get myadvice on how to get over a broken heart based on your specific situation

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{ 91 comments… read them below or add one }

Paully September 6, 2011 at 7:11 am

Thanks so much you’ve really inspired me and I’m goin forward with every suggestion.

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Anonymous September 21, 2011 at 7:31 pm

i’m glad to hear that this has inspired you. best of luck to you!

check out my book if you want more advice on how to get over your ex.

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Irmaksanchez November 12, 2011 at 8:51 pm

Can I have the name of this book please?
I’m 23yrs old and I am dealing with a break up. Its been 2months and I can’t sleep, eat, and find myself still wanting what I know was an unhealthy 3yr relationship.help please!

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Anonymous December 20, 2011 at 6:35 am
Pebbles29 September 9, 2011 at 3:54 pm

how can i when i live with him. im hurting soooo bad and i dont know what to do. i want to kiss, touch, hug, caress him and its ok to him but my heart knows that he isnt feeling the same.

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Lesrootsjam September 20, 2011 at 6:42 pm

I too am living with my ex who I found out was seeing someone before we broke up. A week of anxiety pain shame abandonment and really dark thoughts. Feels like the end

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Cj October 2, 2011 at 3:43 am

I had to watch guys bring home my girlfriend at 4am while I stayed home with our son. When I confronted her she threw me out of the house and was sleeping with her boss within 2 weeks. Me and my son found him in her bed one morning when I was dropping him off. After 2 months of that she wanted to come back and get some help . So I let her move in with me. She never followed through with the plan and 6 months later was seeing him again behind my back. Then she was staying out till 5am while living under my roof and I told her she had to leave. She got her own place and within a few weeks My son walked into her bedroom and found a different guy in her bed. I also found text messages of her praising her new boyfriend and how much sex they had. So the moral of the story is that people don’t change but they can change us . Don’t let them because they don’t deserve it. It cost me 8 years of my life to figure this out and its still hard to let go even today. You are not alone !     CJ

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miss h November 28, 2011 at 11:07 pm

That is very true, people don’t change so if you notice something you dont like at the beginning of the relationship (drink, drugs, eye for other women, something major) i reckon its best to up leave straight away instead of going through the heartache of breaking up years into the relationship. Don’t give up on true love if they love you back and make you feel secure and happy but ALWAYS listen to the niggling feeling, it tells you which love to fight for and which not

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Broken disciple February 23, 2012 at 5:12 am

Dude that aint even fuckin right. That whore deserves to be punished for the adultery she committed behind your back. Your son deserves better and so do you. I’m sorry but im just trying to look out for a prother of the broken hearts. Just isn’t right for a bitch like that to use someone like that.

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Pegahganji March 6, 2012 at 3:45 am

I’m sorry. I know it sucks. Try to look at the fact that you now have another chance to find the one who would never do that to you. Ever.

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Bnk4ever November 30, 2011 at 5:21 am

I have been married for 15 years.  He cheated on me last year.  I would throw myself on my bed at random times and just start crying.  We tried to work it out and did get back together.  I got to kiss, hug and touch him again.  On Thanksgiving he told me he was leaving me.  I hope that you are strong.  Stronger that I was.  Now the hurt comes again.  I feel your pain.  I myself, even though I have been through this before feel physical pain.  My husband does not feel the same way that I feel about him.  That makes the pain worse?  I wish you luck and a speedy recovery.

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Bnk4ever November 30, 2011 at 5:24 am

Guess I need to change the email address I have had for over 15 years.  I need to see if bnknot4ever is available.  Wish I could just understand where and when it went wrong.  He does have a gambling problem and recently fell off the wagon.  I was willing to stand next to him as long as he went for help.  He had no demands for me. Just wants to live his own life.  Now I have to learn how to live my life without him.  I gave him to much power over my heart. 

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Adeltapie December 16, 2011 at 6:14 am

I’m really feeling for you. I’m in the same exact boat as you with the gambling and the cheating amoung with numerous other issues. I also just want to forgive everything just so I could have him back but I know that it will be the same just harder from the last time. CJ’s comment is inspirational to me and I hope you can find comfort in it too. “People don’t change but they can change us” Let’s make sure that change is for the better and for the positive!

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Johh Galt September 10, 2011 at 9:44 pm

Thank your for the this blog.  I look for appropriate context for my clients to read.  this is surely one site I will be passing along.  My clients are looking how to get over a break up and get on with their life.   Thanks again, for you aritcle.

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Dkavathas September 28, 2011 at 11:49 am

i broke up with my boyfriend like  3 months ago but the anger and pain i feel hurts so much i dont know what to do
 

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Db67 October 26, 2011 at 11:21 am

i’m in the same situation : how did you get over it ??

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X-man September 29, 2011 at 2:25 am

Right before I broke up with my ex I was taking xanax on a daily basis cause of stress related issues.  I feel hurt and anger and did stupd things that should of landed me in jail (freakin testosterone sometimes takes over) anyway.  Its been about 3 weeks since the break-up and my xanax usage has dramatically gone down.  It may take a while for you to see the results but when you see them you realize that they were for the greater cause (health, work, happiness ect ect…)  It still hurts but it does make you aware and emotionally stronger.

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Ventrisdavis October 9, 2011 at 4:34 pm

This blog really helping me it made me cry but I know its going to take some time I feel like Iwasted six years of my life on one person and im ready to move on and take the next steps to my happiness

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Pegahganji March 6, 2012 at 3:34 am

Hey sweetie! I feel the same. You’re not alone. I was in a relationship for about 8-9 years with a guy I poured my soul and eternal love into. A bum from the beginning (running from the law, parents wanted nothing to do with him, lies I kept catching onto that were embarrassing to reveal I knew) and then after “supporting” us for years, I started (with the help of friends and family) ask him to start working. I mean it would only be fair right? Especially when I worked 3 jobs while he stayed home and played online fantasy games?
Well a bum is a bum is a bum is a BUM and what I found, instead, was that he was “sex ting” and talking to some of the women online. Making me seem like a monster. I mean damn! I was mortified. Hurt. Scared to reveal to my loved ones because they were teetering on the verge of physical intervention to the

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Pegahganji March 6, 2012 at 3:38 am

The extreme from everyone around me being so upset. Later I finally moved out. He wouldn’t budge and he ended up finding other women to leech off of, always coming back to me to take what little dignity I had left.
I kept him a secret when he stayed with me. He left again out of state to meet someone. It was a bad fall out. Came back to me. Now he’s here and I can’t help but want to help, want to love again, but even now-though he denies it-when I know how to break into his “coded cellphone”-that he has another person he’s “dating.”
He is continually using me. I feel like such a fool. I can’t stop. It’s scary and I disgust myself for my lack of power in the situation

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Pegahganji March 6, 2012 at 3:42 am

So with all that blah blah blah, I’m simply saying (by pouring my heart out) that I understand and feel you. I cry too. Over every little thing.
I know where I stand & how stupid I look.
When my sister calls me and tells me she had a nightmare that he was back in my life while I’m telling him to keep quiet in the other room, I’m simply disgusted with myself.
It was THAT bad.
Please try to forget.
Set his stuff, memories on fire, see someone else, find a hobby, learn to love yourself. I’m trying and hope both of us can get through these dark times.
Good luck, darling.
I know it’s devastatingly and dark where you’re at. That’s why even in the dark, I reach out to you. Sometimes it helps :)

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Kentarius November 10, 2011 at 3:14 pm

My girlfriend cheated on me, yet I forgave her then broke up with me because she broke the guy who she cheated on me with’s heart, and I want to move on yet I love her so much and I wanna work things out please help me figure out wahat to do.

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Justjoe2u December 4, 2011 at 11:22 am

Sober up and learn how to type for one.

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stronger you become November 14, 2011 at 8:43 pm

hi guys. wanted expalin to you how i explain what a bad relationship is like…….my love is like a pair of slippers…..fit like a glove.,,,,,(when we first met)  they were so comfortable,couldnt wait to finish work to put them on (meaning couldnt wait to see him……then after a year there was holes appearing in my slippers,but i would not get a new pair, i carried on and carried on,,,,then i decided to go and buy myself a new par,try it out to see if i would get a pair that fitted me like a glove….(met a new guy) 

 it wasnt the same……they didnt fit snugg(he wasnt the same as my ex)  so i decided to bring back the old pair of slippers (take my ex back)  there was lots of holes but i choose to ignore and ignore….by the end these slippers were hanging on to the cotton,trying to stay together, but i was getting more hurt and more hurt…..there was blisters on my feet,,,,,,in the end i had no choice but to throw them out (had to let go)  i walk around for a year bearfooted, by god the pain was intense……(my heart was broken,pineing for him,longing for his cuddles) but i knew it was no more,the slipers were gone……finally …
my feet didnt hurt no more, they became stronger and stronger,the more i walked barefooted the more my skin became harder and harder…..finally,,

,i was able to find a pair of slippers that made me feel special and before the holes apperered, i give them a break and sowed them up…..the moral of my story is,,,give up on the love if it is hurting you guys,,,,,let go,,,,,go with the pain for a while,because evenually you will come out the other side,much stronger and ready to put things rights and find the right one….
there is no such thing as a perfect world………..there is no such thing as a perfect person……but there is someone perfect out there for you!!!!!!!!!!!!11

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K Thomas November 23, 2011 at 2:18 am

I’ve gone through a breakup so devastating that I actually felt physical pain. My coping mechanisms, unfortunately, were so poor that I grew an unhealthy attraction to nasty substances to mask the hurt. As Bertrand Russell notes, [drugs] don’t create happiness; instead, they are a temporary respite for unhappiness. Over time, and with considerable help, I’ve come to learn a lot from the experience. One of the most powerful things you can learn in the process is yourself, which seems to be a foundation point of these 5 tips. Thanks for sharing. 

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Bnk4ever November 30, 2011 at 5:34 am

I am so glad that I stumbled across the website.  I am going through a break up right now.  Married 15 years.  In my mind I did everything right.  I forgave him for cheating on me, gambling away the money and helping us along the path of bankruptcy.  I thought he changed.  Though he learned his lesson.  Though he loved me more than gambling.  This was in January.  On thanksgiving he told me that he was leaving.  He will not admit to seeing another woman.  I know that he is gambling.  He says he doesn’t know why he can’t be with me anymore.  I can only think the worse.  Even though I mourned him last time he left I took him back way to fast.  I didn’t want to feel the pain anymore.  Now the pain is worse.  I am out on sick leave and not working.  He already found another house to rent and is on his way.  I don’t know how to get over someone saying they love me on Wed and dumping me on Thurs.  I feel stupid, blind and betrayed.  When I read step one of this book I realized I was acting normal.  Thank for posting and thank you for letting me share.

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Anonymous December 4, 2011 at 1:57 am

I’m really sorry to hear about what happened but really happy to know that the first chapter of my book that I give away for free helped you. It’s normal to feel that back and forth pull but you have to know when enough is enough. Looks like you got walked all over for far too long without drawing the line. Sometimes theres such a thing as being too patient, too loving and too understanding. You live and you learn. Now you know for next time. There’s no way to wake up and be over him like April shared in the post above you but my book guides you through the process of getting over someone as quickly and easily as possible. It’s not a magic pill that will take all your pain away but it will certainly help you heal.

You can download your copy by clicking the link below:

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chico March 15, 2012 at 6:42 pm

Hiya, I`vw just came across this site, married for 12 years to a compulsive gambler and took all the hurt this has caused over the years, just found out four weeks ago hes been cheating on me too, its so hurtful, i`m not going to accept this, the constant lies,lies, i feel so hurt that he has been seeing someone behind my back, i dont want to accept this behaviour and told him, i`m finished this time.  I feel so used and hurt how can he say he loves his family when he has lies, cheated and stole from us over the years.

 

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Aprilste363322 December 4, 2011 at 1:50 am

I understand. I am going through this with a guy. What makes it so hard he still calls and wants,the,relationship. I refuse to be hurt anymore but it hurts the same. It just takes so long. I just wish I could wake up and be over him but I guess that’s not how it works. I once heard it takes as long to get over someone as it did to fall in love with them. I hope that’s not true. I couldn’t deal with 5 years of misery.

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Deadman_0967275 December 6, 2011 at 2:23 am

thats such a load of shit if ive ever heard any.

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USC777 December 21, 2011 at 1:17 pm

Thank you Kevin. Passing this along to my son. He’s really hurting right now. This is really good advice and I hope he can learn from it.

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fm214 December 21, 2011 at 6:22 pm

ive been together with this girl for a year ups and downs but were still together. what should i do when she tells me she dont love me but she wants to be with me. she is still in luv with her ex and she told me she woundnt hurt him but she has hurt me. i know im dumb for keeping this realationship going but its hard to just getr up and leave and i know thats the best thing to do’. she has aslo told me she wants a baby by me an wants to marry me im so confused!!!!!

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fm214 December 21, 2011 at 6:25 pm

i dont wana be hurt no more what should i do ????

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Tabby January 11, 2012 at 5:05 pm

Life is a gamble. You can get hurt, but people die in plane crashes, lose their arms and legs in car accidents; people die every day. Same with fighters: some die, some get hurt, some go on.From hurt comes strength. Such for woman gives birth to child, pain comes first.  

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Tabby January 11, 2012 at 5:07 pm

life will have pain and joy, life will have up and downs. stick friends and family.

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remydarnell@hotmail.com December 21, 2011 at 8:20 pm

We dated for two and a half years. Then he and I broke up because my friends were pressuring me cuz they realllllllllllly hated him and he thought that I was unfaithful. That was a couple months ago. Now he has a new girlfriend. Shes nice enough b ut today was the day they were handing out candy canes you could but for people. Her bought her over 30. Every one was gushing anout oh its so romantic. And all I heard from everyone was he must really love you/her to her i came home and cried. I dont know if I want him back but it just makes me so jealous. I’m so depressed.

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Xxbabylovexx4488 December 21, 2011 at 11:45 pm

i was dating this guy for almost 7 months , and he broke up with me yesterday . he was my everything and i actually love him , i still do but it hurts so much , i cant think straight , i cant hide my tears , just me thinking about us makes me cry so much . my heart is so broken i don’t know if i could ever get by , its just too much for me <l3 )':

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Vvvvvlittledove January 6, 2012 at 4:15 am

Honey,I know go you feel I have been in a relationship in 2 years everything was going just fine now he will not talk to me he was the love of my life I would do anything for just give it some time this advice seems like it would work just think positive and don’t give up on love trust me someone is out there for you it might be him and it might just wait and see!! <3

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Victorias3133 December 22, 2011 at 5:59 am

I started dating a army guy he went to Afghanistan.. we have been dating bout 7 months. things were great we were planning our future when he got back and we talked a couple times a week.  He told me loved me and he would never hurt me. My friend saw him o nt his site that he was suppose to delete. I asked him about it without getting mad and telling him i was not mad. He hasnt talked to me in 3 days since. He wont say anything. I am so hurt confused and crushed… I cant believe it like its not real. I dont know what to do. Did he ever love me?

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Girl212 January 9, 2012 at 1:13 am

I’m going through what you may call a ” post- traumatic” breakup. I met what I thought was a wonderful man w/ morals and values, we just clicked and the chemistry was there instantly. After in very little time there were bumps but we got through it. Not claiming to be the best relationship, but it was a strong companionship. It’s very hard to lose your best friend, and to a teen (she’s 19, hes 25). I left because of a small lie but felt by accepting the lie meant accepting that behavior. Now the he’s in a new relationship, he continues to contact me. For six month after our breakup I would get texts emails and phone calls saying how much he loved me, doesn’t love her and wants to get out but ” doesn’t know how”…..right. This made me long for him even knowing it was wrong. Now it’s been a couple months and I haven’t heard a word. With the holidays it’s been hard. I can’t stop thinking about him and I’m in so much pain. I feel like I’ve been dooped.

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Tabby January 11, 2012 at 4:33 pm

You, do-not deserve games. You have genuine love is very precious. To Love and to be Loved is the most amazing thing anybody can experience. Love is a very sacred bond between two people who truly love each other.. Trust, Understanding and Respect is very essential. . Close your eyes and leave everything up to the big boss up there! May God Bless YOU and heal you dear one.. May God Bless my your bleeding heart!! May God heal you completely make you whole stronger and wiser. You deserve happiness not despair. Be strong precious one, this too shall pass… Let go Let God.. Don’t torment your self over and over again you deserve so’ much better because your wroth it. .. Love hugs dear from heaven above.. 

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Anonymous January 16, 2012 at 2:52 am

I dated a guy through most of my high school career and he was my first everything expect for sex. He was a year older then me so when he went to college our relationship turned awful. He would put me down and constantly push me into having sex but I never did… it got to the point where he lied to all of his guy friends saying he ‘did me’. He ended up cheating on me which did not surprise me but this relationship still haunts me and I just want to move on its been a year now and Im tried of being resentful. I just want this feeling to go away… Any suggestions?

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gloria January 21, 2012 at 8:55 pm

i have been with this guy for almost 3years now and we even have a 7month old baby boy.I recently found out that he had made someone else pregnant while i was still pregnant but she had an abortion.He has also cheated on me with 2 other girls.we are constantly arguing and he still talks to one of the girl’s he cheated on me with claiming she is a friend,and he says he is not ready to be committed to me,i was also told by the so-called friend that he told her that he doesn’t love me and that i force myself on him but he says its a lie.we are not together though he says he loves me and wants to be with me but he is scared,should  just forget about him and move on despite us having a baby together? 

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Anonymous January 21, 2012 at 9:19 pm

I am not one to tell anyone how to live their life but does this really sound like someone you want to build a life and a family with? I don’t know about you but if I was a woman, my answer would be no. Especially when there is a child in the picture. If he can’t do simple things like be faithful and not control his dicks impulses, how is he going to raise a child with you? Forget that though. Do you really want to live with someone that you are constantly fighting and arguing with? Not only is that bad for both you and him, it’s toxic for the baby. You already know what to do. You are just seeking confirmation. You don’t need my approval. Do what you think is right and go for what you feel you deserve.

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guest January 29, 2012 at 6:32 am

Gloria, you can never forget him cause yall have a child together but if a guy isn’t truthful or loyal to you then he isn’t worth the tears or anything.  You will see him all through your life because of yall child but you should move on if he is really going to treat you like this no women should have to go through that.  Im a guy saying this.

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Nothing works January 28, 2012 at 8:28 pm

I don’t agree to suggest to break up or to get back.. We r all in pain. For me, I think we should all believe in something, god , ancestor, satan, hitler. I don’t care.. Find something and believe it and tell whatever that it is u believe and tell him ur pain..and keep ur self busy with cleaning, jobs and anything u can find.. It takes a while, but it will work eventually ..

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Cathys_here March 3, 2012 at 11:52 am

This is really good advice, though I’d leave out Satan & Hitler!

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broken January 29, 2012 at 4:34 pm

i was going out with this guy for 2 years , he’s not the bilogical father to my daughter but he loves her like one, i moved to an area where he lives where there is no support for me ie friends family. he told me yesterday he doesn’t love me and moved out . i am so lost! he was the main breadwinner , my salary is small change compared to his , i relied on him so much we were living like a family. god i don’t know how to explain to my 4 year old daughter that she no longer has a father.i still love him, just two weeks ago we were celebrating our anniversary. i’e got so much to deal with my emotions my daughter wanting to knpw where daddy is sorting my work , sorting chilcare etc. i don’t know how to cope, i don’t know what to do

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guest February 4, 2012 at 5:06 am

i feel for u and i know what ur going through. i was with my boyfriend for 3 years and i thought we had an amazing relationship. the past few weeks he was acting weird though. i thought that he was just tired because he got a new job and was working really long hours. one day about 2 weeks ago he just was being very mean and hateful towards me and out of no where he told me he doesnt love me anymore. i was so good to him and its hard to comprehend. the worst part..in 7 months pregnant with his child:/ this is the hardest thing ive ever had to go through.h doesnt care what hes doing to me and admited that he resents me because he feels like he missed out on his youth and having fun because he was stuck in our relationship..were 22 years old.
im so heart broken i cant eat think or even get out of bed. at least i have my daughter but my heart feel what it feels and i love him. hearing that the person u love doesnt love u back is like taking a bullet…im sorry for what ur going thru..i dont know how but we’ll get through it

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steph March 11, 2012 at 4:27 am

i went through the same exact situation except it was a month before i was due to have my son

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loveless April 30, 2013 at 9:44 am

I feel all of you. I have 1 yr old and 4 mos pregnant (also a 4 yr old) and my kids’ father left 3 weeks after I had found him a job then he caused me to lose mine that I’d maintained almost 4 years. We’d been together over 3 years, he’d always walk out on me for weeks at a time. He was even with someone else while I gave birth to our daughter. /it would take pages to describe the pain he has caused me yet my heart still wants a family with him. He blames the ending on me and that he was done trying with me. 3 years, 2 kids later and you’re done. All I ever tied to do was prove my love to him, he treats me terribly but wont admit to it and I think that hurts a little more.

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Johanna April 19, 2012 at 5:57 am

I’m sorry to hear that. And believe me I feel your pain….. Ive been married for almost 6 years, I have a 5 year old boy and I’m 7 monthts pregnant. My husband went to an army class to a different state for 6 weeks and lots happened during that time…. The night he came home I checked his phone an I found pictures of a woman naked. It broke me in million of pieces, I cried and cried for 2 days non stop. And he seemed sooo sorry that I told me I was willing to make it work because I wanted of family to stay together…. That was last week! Today I found more things… He actually was having sexual conversations with 2 more girls and went to dinner with one of them and they kissed! Now I can’t stop crying again and don’t know why to do…

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vp February 5, 2012 at 7:50 pm

Hi Broken,
Just read your comments and wow, I feel your pain.  Emotions of love lost are hard enough never mind the rest.  I’ll keep you in my prayers if you say one for me.  I met a girl a year ago and I feel deeply in love with her.  She was so beautiful and interesting.  She had 3 wonderful kids and while it took time for them to accept me, they did and i love them so much.   we were talking about buying a house together and sharing the rest of our lives together.  Everything was great. Then, then she started to act strange and changed her relationship profile on Facebook to single, saying her ex husband was giving her grief.  I accepted this as I trusted her.  Then i discovered something which really hurt me. I found out while on the lap top that she was going on “adult” dating sites, swapping numbers/emails with loads of men, inviting them to look at pictures of her on FB (explains the real reason for the relationship change).  I was gutted and tried to speak to her about it.  She bottled it and left.  I was so worried about her mental health and looked for her all over.  She contacted me about mid-night.  We spoke about it and she agreed to stop it and remove the guys from her fb phone and email.  Then a few days later she was texting a lot, going to the bathroom and texting and texting.  I knew what was happening and looked at her phone when she wasnt about and saw that she was text loads of guys.  I was broken hearted but would have still tried to work it out but she asked me to leave and we finished.  A few days later she is dating again.  I miss her so much no matter what she done to me.  Miss her 3 kids more than i can explain.  I’m going through the stages of a break up but i cant seem to be angry with her but i feel a loss in my soul.  So please pray for me and give me strength

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Tom February 22, 2012 at 11:27 pm

i know what you are going through! i dated a girl for 3 years and she has a 7 year old daughter. we talked about marriage,a house and kids. her more often than i at times. i did everything for her and her daughter, i loved her daughter like she was my own. it was refreshing to have two people love me after having so many failed relationships. not too long ago she went away to visit a relative with her daughter for 5 days. when she came back she was very nasty and very cold toward me. this went on for 3 months, i asked her many times if something was wrong and she said, “no everything was fine”. i chalked it up to the holidays. she hates them because right around that time her mother passed away. anyways, not too long after new years we were sitting around watching tv and she broke up with me. just like that it was over. she said, “she didn’t believe that i really want to marry her and have kids. so instead of me resenting her later on in life she decided to end it.” we didn’t talk for a month. she contacted me few days ago and said that the spark was gone from our relationship and she wasen’t a 100% happy. she claimed she was sorry for hurting me but she can’t change how she felt. she felt that when she was away she should have missed me more, which in turn led to where we are now. in short, i’m destroyed and there isn’t a day that goes by that i miss her and her daughter.

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Guest February 5, 2012 at 11:29 pm

Isn’t it just the stupidest thing when your boyfriend breaks up with you for one reason, then you ask him to explain it, because it doesn’t make sense to you, so then he blends that reason in with another, over and over, until you realize that douche was only trying to make you feel better while he broke up with you. And when did breaking up with someone because he was too in love with you ever become cool? He doesn’t think he’s good enough for me, because I’m going away to college in the fall, and he’s not, but he’s a year older than me, so he thinks he’s useless. How do you tell a person you love them no matter what when they refuse to try and find a solution? Right now I only live 15 miles away from him; in the fall that’ll be 300. Is four years really a deal breaker?

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maxy February 7, 2012 at 3:58 pm

i met this gal a year ago and fell for her at once. everything was going fine but then suddenly her reactions changed. Today she left me and i feel its forever. I don’t know why people become  what they have promised they will never be. may god help us all and give us strength. 

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Lindsayelboyd February 7, 2012 at 5:38 pm

I was in love with this guy for 6 years went through 2 deployments with him and he left me for a girl he got preganat in a one night stand. It hurts so bad. I dont love him anymore I just want him to hurt and suffer as much as I did.

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Wardenjoshua February 12, 2012 at 4:57 pm

i got on this site cause was bored i have the opposite we were together for 6 yrs and she cheated while he was on leave here cant belive it went from facebook to this hurts very deep

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george February 16, 2012 at 2:25 am

scum he is

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Amy February 9, 2012 at 12:30 am

My boyfriend and I just broke up after 5 months. It sucks so bad especially because he is the first guy i’ve ever loved. I’ve been in relationships before, but nothing like this. I actually love and care so much for this guy, I put him first above myself. I did everything I could to show that I was a good girlfriend and to make it work. Turns out it wasn’t enough. Some people are only going to think about themselves and not change for anyone. I just don’t know what to do without him. I lived my life for him and he was apart of my every thought. I thought of a future based off what he wanted. I just need to understand that somewhere out there is someone that will appreciate me, love me and treat me the way I deserve. 

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Jazzi February 12, 2012 at 2:50 am

OMG SAMME

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Lovsucks69 February 16, 2012 at 2:24 am

amy sorry to here that 5 months is a long time but not as long as 6 years, over something retarted. the night before valentines this year, we argued cuz she wanted to take my daughter out at 11pm to keep drinking at another friends house, so i got pissed and i told her it was wrong for even thinking about puttin a 3 year old child so u could have your fun. 1 hour later her mom call cops, the retarted part about it is they allowed her to take my child while she was drinking to go keep drinking, with out the option of keeping my child

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Arshapuniitha February 9, 2012 at 6:27 am

I had already tried 4 different online spell caster’s services, but all the casters I met were jerks and scams. Then my Walter told me about Old Religoin Temple. I wasn’t sure anything would come out of it, but I thought, why not take a chance? I cast a Love Spell, and the very next week a gorgeous guy came up to me at a club and asked me to dance. He is caring, kind, romantic – everything I always wanted. We’ve been together for six months, and we’re talking about getting married. I’m a believer!” If you requires any assistance, you can contact the temple through oldreligoin@gmail.com   Arsha

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Faith February 18, 2012 at 7:57 am

I completely understand that some people have problems believing in magic and finding the right spell caster (I have been there) but Dr.gboco.(gbocotemple@yahoo.com) is a true practitioner who can REALLY help. Sometimes money is an issue but it is worth spending a few hundred if your problems can be solved. I believe it is a small price to pay. And a word of advice about staying positive…DO IT. When you are ordering a spell STAY POSITIVE during and after the spell work.

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SAMANTHA February 18, 2012 at 8:18 am

I can’t thank you enough for all that you have done for me. About a year ago I my partner split up, we had both made BIG mistakes in our relationship. He ended up moving away from me to pursue a new life. I knew in my heart that he would be the only one to make me happy. I was relieved when I found your site and what you had to offer. I requested 3 to 4 day casting of the reunite us love spell and within 4days Greg’s company had relocated him back to our hometown where I still lived. We immediately reconnected and move in with each other. Our wedding date is set for Summer 2012. Expect to see your invite in the mail!.thanks to powerful kumar(powerfulkumarspell@yahoo.com)

Thank you! ~ Samantha, United Kingdom, Surrey, England.

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lee February 22, 2012 at 2:20 am

i am praying we all get over these situations, and put them in the past, where they should stay.  lets love ourselves enough to say “who cares if they’re with someone else…let that person now have to DEAL!!!”

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Brown13777 February 22, 2012 at 2:40 am

I was reading your 5 steps to healing a broken heart and based on what I read I feel better already. My story is a bit more complicated then just a couple breaking up. I am a married woman of 12 years and about a year ago I rekindled with and old boyfriend from high school and upon seeing him I instantly fell in love with him. Loved him more than any relationship I have been in. After about 3 months into our affair he told me he could not do it anymore because of my marriage. He crushed my heart. To this day I still crave him.

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Emily February 25, 2012 at 1:51 pm

My boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday at a dance. We dated for about 9 months. He said that he wasnt feeling the spark anymore but he still wants to be very close friends. I know who he is going to date next (my best friend) but just reading this made me get over it.

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Caprichozero9 March 1, 2012 at 3:05 pm

i was in a 5 yr relashionship with my x. we had son and well i guess our 5 yrs werent that great so we broke up. that same week we broke up shee started talking to my friend latdr i found out that they were dating i got killed so bad. well i went on. but in that time i tried to get myself strait go to the gym and other things. i stopped talking to her or even seeing her for 3 months. i was getting over her but when i saw her and talked to her i had alot to tell her. its like i wanted her back so some way we started talking again and we started a relationship. out of all that time i couldnt forget what she had done. she alwais said it was a mystake she had done. know i have a week that we broke up or she did. i guess right know im going trough depression i really need her. to get over her and not fall in the same mistake again. i just wanna b happy and i guess move on without hurting and thinking of her.

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Julia March 3, 2012 at 12:24 pm

I am a 55 yr old happily married woman. I thought I had matured and done with falling in love and the pain it causes. I am married to a wonderful man whom I love deeply, and who (I thought) meets all my emotional needs. Though when we met I did not fall deeply in love, a deep and abiding love has grown over the years and I was completely happy until  a couple months ago. I hope no-one will find the next bit shocking: My husband introduced me to swinging a few years ago, he didn’t want to take part himself, he wanted me to because the idea turned him on. To please him I tried it a couple of times, but I didn’t get much out of it so stopped. However, 2 months ago, out of the blue, I met a guy I was very strongly physically attracted to, and I told my husband. He said if I wanted to go ahead, as long as I was safe, he was happy and turned on himself by the idea. So I did, but completely and unexpectadly I also fell in love, and the guy said he felt the same, though I have my doubts. However, falling in love was not part of the plan, and after much soul searching I broke it off with this guy yesterday. I am not sure what he is going through, but I was completely unprepared for the depth of pain I am now in. I feel that at my age and with all my past experience I should not be in this situation, but here I am. All I can do is wait for time to heal.

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Julia1956 March 3, 2012 at 12:26 pm

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I am a 55
yr old happily married woman. I thought I had matured and done with falling in
love and the pain it causes. I am married to a wonderful man whom I love
deeply, and who (I thought) meets all my emotional needs. Though when we met I
did not fall deeply in love, a deep and abiding love has grown over the years
and I was completely happy until a couple months ago. I hope no-one will find
the next bit shocking: My husband introduced me to swinging a few years ago, he
didn’t want to take part himself, he wanted me to because the idea turned him
on. To please him I tried it a couple of times, but I didn’t get much out of it
so stopped. However, 2 months ago, out of the blue, I met a guy I was very
strongly physically attracted to, and I told my husband. He said if I wanted to
go ahead, as long as I was safe, he was happy and turned on himself by the
idea. So I did, but completely and unexpectedly, I also fell in love, and the
guy said he felt the same, though I have my doubts. However, falling in love
was not part of the plan, and after much soul searching I broke it off with
this guy yesterday. I am not sure what he is going through, but I was
completely unprepared for the depth of pain I am now in. I feel that at my age
and with all my past experience I should not be in this situation, but here I
am. All I can do is wait for time to heal.

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gunia1998 March 3, 2012 at 12:43 pm

my boyfriend broke up with me two day ago and we have been going out for four months i really love him and I’ve never stopped i cant watch him flirting with other girls because it just hurts to much pleas help i really want to get back with him  

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Mathew March 7, 2012 at 4:20 pm

I am sorry hun. Same happened with my ex gf. You will find a lad who will worship you believe me :-) xx

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Kristi March 8, 2012 at 6:53 pm

i think my boyfriends going to break up with me tonight he said we need to talk. i know how it feels to be in love with someone in such a short pierod of time. The strongest thing to do and the hardest is let it be. If he comes back its because u let it be. You should never try and make someone want to be with you no matter how much it hurts i nkow how it feels. syau strong

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S J Ray Az March 10, 2012 at 12:20 pm

I feel for everyone that posted their heartbreaks. Throughout my life I have always given every last bit of my heart and soul to the people I had relationships with. This has caused me a lot of pain and confusion wondering if I was actually in love. Since my last breakup I have been reflecting a lot on those past relationships and found that I was only “in love” with one other person and the others were a result of giving too much myself. Shortly after my breakup with my first love (3 year relationship) I met someone that once I again I fell for immediately. But I was still in pain from my previous heart break. Suddenly I recognized that I was getting too attached and that I was only setting myself up to be hurt again. So I told my girlfriend that we should separate for awhile and to my surprise she became very emotional (I never saw this from her before this day). We were at a friends house who told me to talk to her in the back room cause she obviously knew that she was falling “in love” with me too. At this point we had been dating for about 4 months but had known each other for at least a year. So I had her follow me into the back room. And as we stood there face to face I saw the pain in her eyes and the love all at the same time. I remembered this look because I only was looked at like that by one other person, my first love. We talked for a few minutes and I explained to her that I was just afraid to get too attached because when I love, I love hard and I never wanted to feel heart break again. She said that she felt the same way and that no matter what we would always be willing to work through things because our relationship started off as friendship which gives us the ability to talk openly and freely with each other. Instantly I thought about my first love again but this time it didn’t hurt and I recognized that a big reason our relationship failed was because we could never talk about disagreements without a fight. So I let my guard down again and asked her promise to me that if it didn’t work out down the road, we wouldn’t tear each other apart, which she did with our secret hand shake. Eight months later she got pregnant I made the biggest decision of my life… I asked her to marry me. I come from a traditional catholic italian family so this was a huge decision because we don’t believe in divorce. But the past year was almost too perfect so I went for it. We were married April 19, 1996, one month before our daughter was born. We were soul mates and 5 years later we had our son. Another 2 years passed and we had another daughter. Finally our family was complete. By now we had been married for 7 years and like any marriage we went through our ups and downs but we always pushed through it. Then our 10 year anniversary came and I wanted to do something really special. So I started saving money to buy new wedding rings so that we could renew our vows at her favorite place, the beaches of La Jolla, Ca. Secretly I arranged the ceremony for sunrise right on the beach on the day of our anniversary and rented a 2 bedroom condo with a sunset view. A month before the surprise I took her to the local miniature golf course and got down on one knee on the first hole after she hit her shot and asked her to remarry me. I saw that look that she gave me 11 years earlier in that back room and I was hooked on her even more than before. The ceremony was beautiful, the room and view were stunning, and we got our 2nd set of matching tattoos. The next 5 years went by very fast and I noticed a change in her. I won’t into details about how she changed but it was totally out of character, no adultery or anything like that. I could see things falling apart so I started planning more alone time without the kids only to fight every time we went somewhere. Then 2 days before our 15th anniversary she told me that she wasn’t “in love” with me anymore and that we should seperate. BOOM!!!!! My entire world shattered at that moment. That was April 17, 2011. I moved in with my parents and in August of 2011 I was served with divorce papers. January of 2012 the divorce was finalized and it was officially over. Now its March 10, 2012 and I feel just as bad as I did that day in April, 2011. I never spent more than 3 – 4 days away from any of them and now I am all alone. I don’t know who I am anymore and don’t think the pain will ever go away.

- Scott

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CL March 11, 2012 at 5:06 pm

Go and fight for it. Maybe your wife does not really mean to do it, which many times women do things impulsively or a testing for their spouse, to see whether they will fight for them. Are u sure your wife is no longer in love with u ? Go and find out the reason behind. Communicate with her. Should encourage her to go for marital counselling. Maybe u can start all over with her again. All parents want the best for their children. Reconnect and build the bond with your children again.

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Bxjessica April 11, 2012 at 5:22 pm

Hey Scott. I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but keep your head up ; it does get better. Life has so much to offer at every stage/phase. I’m here with you, my heart got broken too. Best wishes.

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joan November 3, 2012 at 2:40 pm

my name is Joan i want to testify about a great spell caster that help me cast a spell that bring my ex boyfriend back to without any delay. I broke up with my ex with just little misunderstanding hoping we will get back shortly,but things was growing worse until i contacted Dr stone who help me with his historical powers to bring him back, without charging me any money for his work, i have never believed in a spell caster until i come across Dr stone Well it will be of great sin if i should go out from here without dropping the contact of this great spell caster,in case you need the help of this great spell caster you can contact him through his email: shamuspiritualtemple@gmail.com once you contact him all your problems will be over,once again i say very big thanks to you sir for helping me to recover my ex back, and please sir keep your good work cause people need your helping hand in their lives.once more contact him on his email now. shamuspiritualtemple@gmail.com

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Rosie March 11, 2012 at 3:47 am

I was in love with someone that i thought liked me back at least, he lead me on, only to discover he was in a relationship with another girl, after dousing me with alchohol sleeping with me and telling me i was the most beautiful girl he had layed eyes on and telling me i had the voice of an angel (As a singer, singing is where all my confidence is). Thanks for ruining that for  me. Not. I don’t feel insecure because of you, i am growing, my friends have told me of the beauty i have which is more than you could ever offer me.

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miss N March 12, 2012 at 6:40 pm

Thanks alot.its being hard for me breaking up with ma ex.i really loved him alot.but after i read ur book, it really helped alot because now m coming back to reality and i am moving on with my life.continue with the good work and help others.

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Cristina March 31, 2012 at 4:51 pm

“I’ve seen Craig yesterday. He starts to realize his mistake. Communication between us is improving a lot… I am sure that soon he will step back and come back with me. I will send you an email soon and let you know how things are going.” Thanks to Dr. Gboco(gbocotemple@yahoo.com)

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Tcaarney31 April 13, 2012 at 7:22 am

She likes to be out til bar close without me and show up at my place when she’s done. I don’t want to be out getting drunk and dancing anymore. We’ve been together for a yr and have basically lived with each other that whole time. I told her I can’t handle the late nights anymoreand I broke it off. I didn’t trust her out my r the guys that thought she was single…this was 2to weekends ago. She came over after Easter and we had sex and I haven’t seen her since then..we are still communicating but it doesn’t seem like she can handle me breaking up with her again so she keeps messages short and far between. I miss the cuddling and smiles and love…help?!

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PopRocker5 April 14, 2012 at 3:35 am

My boyfriend told me a while back that he ripped up the forms to go to the military but he told me that he didn’t and he didn’t know why he lied but he said that he wouldn’t be around a lot and thought we should break up. But he seemed as if he was sad about it too but i just can’t seem to get over what we had. Just last night we were fine. I don’t know what i did…

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Kriss101 April 20, 2012 at 3:34 pm

I really appreciate your write up.With your help i now know how to forget about my ex girlfriend and move on with my life.Thank you so much.You are such a life saver.

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Rowena June 24, 2012 at 3:02 pm

My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but i decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then i went online there i saw so many good talk about this spell caster whose website is vadoospell@gmail.com so i had to contact him and in just 5days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man i got married to.

I cant thank the spell caster enough what what he did for me, i am so grateful.
   
Thanks.
 Elly

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Victor Bermudez July 27, 2012 at 9:51 pm

Kevin you’re a beautiful man and would like to thank so much for sharing your knowledge on what to do during a break up or after. Your tips will help me deal with future break ups!

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Judith September 27, 2012 at 9:08 am

My name is Judith, I almost took my life because of my ex who left me and stop picking my calls. He said do not trust me anymore, I tried to convince him, but he will not believe me until we had a fight and broke up for 8months, after then I realize I can not live without him because of the love I have for him. I tried everything possible to get him back, but non worked for me, some fake spell casters scammed me and went away with my money until I came across this man called kabaka, he cast a spell for me and behold my ex came back after three days, begging me for forgiveness, I was so surprised that spell caster like kabaka still exist. If anyone here needs some help, with all sincerity, contact dr.tubevia his email:goodspelltemple@gmail.com.

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Love Barry October 19, 2012 at 4:48 am

I ordered a spell on a friday night and on Monday the place I applied for a job called
for me to come by their office. They gave me the job I applied for and made me an offer
of more per hour than I have ever made in my life! I am so happy! The government jobs
sometimes are a slow process. You somehow managed to speed up that process, and I
start in just a few days! dr,kokotemple i will be forever grateful thank ones again ok
you can call on him for help on his email address dr,kokotemple@gmail.com

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cinthya October 25, 2012 at 11:33 pm

i want to date the guy on the video :)

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jacobs January 16, 2013 at 9:05 pm

i am Mrs. jacobs from switzerland. i want to use this medium to congratulate DR.olugbo for the great help of spell he has render to my relationship
outbreak. since past 3 years i was in a relationship problem with my ex, he
always get me beating, i never knew he has another girl outside the town, her
name is michel, until i get his email address from the internet, so i email
him and i laid all my complain to him, he promise me that i am to keep off away from him, and i really agreed on it, but on a condition that my lost
ex will be back,,,, he really but some few items he uses to consulting his
great oracle, his plan for my relationship was fullfil and my lost ex was
back again within 48hrs… please if you are in such mess today please
contact him at (olugbotemple@hotmail.com)

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moreen January 28, 2013 at 2:33 pm

AM HAPPY AGAIN DR OKUDU for what you have just done, for helping
me geting my husband who left me with one kid december last year to me
i thank you so much the great DR OKUDU of you are so greatful me.
bringing back my family i am greatfull and will always be if you also
need his help his email( okudutemple@gmail.com)
moreen silver mexico

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